Consent- Have your Say
Consent is when both people say and show ‘yes’ to an activity and sexual activity without consent is illegal.
Clear: Consent is Active
- It’s expressed through words or actions that create mutually understandable permission.
- Consent is never implied, and the absence of no is not a yes.
- Silence is NOT consent.
- “I’m not sure,” “I don’t know,” “Maybe” and similar phrases are NOT consent.
Coherent: People incapacitated by drugs or alcohol cannot consent
- Someone who cannot make rational, reasonable decisions because they lack the capacity to understand the “who, what, when, where, why or how” of the situation cannot consent.
- People who are asleep or in another vulnerable position cannot consent.
Willing: Consent is never given under pressure
- Consent is not obtained through psychological or emotional manipulation.
- Consent cannot be obtained through physical violence or threat.
- Someone in an unbalanced power situation (i.e. someone under your authority) cannot consent.
Ongoing: Consent must be granted every time
- Consent must be obtained at each step of physical intimacy. If someone consents to one sexual activity, they may or may not be willing to go further.
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